Dedicated abusers can be really good at turning up the heat. One part of the cycle of abuse, in fact, is to apply more and more pressure until their victim does something apparently worthy of complaint. For example, they might just “press your buttons”, again and...
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They have greatly oppressed me from my youth
Apr 17, 2020
“They have greatly oppressed me from my youth, but have not gained the victory over me”
It is common for abuse victims to have to deal with the impact of abuse every day. Even when they have successfully escaped the direct relationship. There are still memories and triggers: mental and emotional injury. There is a need for ongoing vigilance and the complicated, exhausting world of hypervigilance.
Longing for God to turn up
Apr 7, 2020
We are taking a break from the Songs of Ascents today in the light of George Pell’s appeal. To those who are suffering, please know we care deeply. We long to do more to help. When the Israelites were suffering injustice, they expressed their longing for God to turn...
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