For those who are suffering
Abuse is complex. Many abuse tactics are designed to confuse you and make you doubt yourself.
But abuse is behaviour you can learn to see. (Often much easier to see when it’s happening to someone else.)
We are here to help you learn about abusive behaviour so you can get better at knowing if it’s happening to you. And to work out how to care for yourself.
We do that by looking at current insights about abuse and how they relate to what the Bible has to say.
Rest assured: God hates abuse.
For those who care about others
Can you spot abuse when it’s happening to others? To friends? Family? People you lead or care for in your profession?
What do you do if someone brings an accusation about someone who seems trustworthy?
How can you encourage those who are suffering, or teach sensitively about abuse?
We have an increasing set of resources that are free for you to use – for your own learning, or to help others.
We are here to help.
Be part of the solution
Abuse can seem like such a huge problem that it feels impossible to make a difference.
The truth is it is huge. But there is hope. We can bring change together.
You can help by learning about abusive behaviour and what to do when you see it.
You can be part of helping others learn, and we are here to help with that.
Our fight to bring change is severely limited by funds, and you can join the fight by supporting our work. Every one time donation makes a difference, and a commitment to give regularly helps even more.
Please join us. Learn. Share. Give.
That’s how we get there.
It can be heartbreaking to watch someone you care about remain stuck in a dangerous situation. And it can be hard to know how to help a friend in a toxic relationship. It’s easy to feel powerless. So if you have a friend in a dangerous marriage or other abusive situation, what can you do?
One of the most important things to keep in mind – and hopefully this is a relief – is that there are some wonderful organisations out there who can help. The best professionals know when they are getting outside their area of expertise, and the importance of connecting people with the best support. So the number one tip we have to give, far above any other piece of advice, is to help your friend connect with experts who can help them. That is, refer.
When abusers are nice to you does that mean they aren't abusing others? In our last article, we looked at Jonathan's grave error in thinking he could just talk to Saul and that would make David safe. Instead, all he achieved was to put David at greater risk by...